Live and Learn: Five neighborly holiday traditions that bring communities TOGETHER

by David L. Burton, 
Community Development Specialist | University of Missouri Extension

As the holiday season gets underway, here are five favorite neighborhood traditions that I have heard from across the country—simple, meaningful ways neighbors bring joy to one another this time of year. Try one of these ideas to help build social capital where you live.

1. Sharing Goodies
The word “goodies” may sound old-fashioned, but the tradition is timeless. Every December, thousands of neighbors share baked cookies, tins of popcorn, or small store-bought gifts. For some, it’s the only neighboring act they do all year—and that’s exactly why we love it. Holiday giving draws even the quietest or most reluctant neighbors into the circle. A plate of cookies on a doorstep often opens the door to future conversations.

2. Neighborhood Light Displays
Holiday lights brighten more than rooftops—they brighten community spirit. Some neighborhoods host tree-lighting ceremonies; others hold friendly decorating contests (thankfully, far less dramatic than the movie versions!). Apartment buildings join in with door-decorating events.

One creative neighborhood asks residents to place themed Christmas trees on their porches and then publishes a map for neighbors to enjoy a festive walking tour. Bonus: research shows people who decorate outdoors are perceived as friendlier. If you want your neighborhood to feel welcoming, encourage a little sparkle.

3. The Living Advent Calendar
This tradition blends art, anticipation, and creativity. Twenty-four homes commit to decorating one street-facing window, revealing a new “day” each night leading up to Christmas. Many neighborhoods leave all the windows lit through the 12 days of Christmas, some even turning it into a fundraiser. It takes coordination, but it brings neighbors outside, talking, walking, and admiring each other’s handiwork.

4. Holiday Gatherings
A cookie swap, a hot-chocolate bar, a simple open house—small gatherings build big connections. One family on our team invited a few neighbors over for a children’s Christmas concert. The kids dressed up, made programs, and served apple cider. The concert lasted minutes; the conversations lasted hours. That’s the power of bringing people together.

5. Progressive Dinners
Progressive dinners are popular because the work—and the fun—is shared. Four or five homes each host one course: appetizers, salad, main dish, dessert. Guests move from house to house, enjoying food, laughter, and holiday décor along the way. It’s an ideal indoor tradition for colder climates and a wonderful way to experience the hospitality of several households in one evening.

The holidays offer endless opportunities to build connection. Whether you choose a classic tradition or invent something new, the goal is simple: bring people together.